Thank you for recommending your excellent article. Very thoughtful. There are many other paths beyond the simplistic thinking of the gender realists and the gender abolitionists. I think I see in what you are arguing something I agree with, which is that gender is an expression of real traits that a person has. I say there are as many genders as their are individuals, which is not to suggest that agree with the anarchist idiocy. We can avoid absolutism on gender by separating gender as a personal reality and gender roles and the labels/stereotypes that define those roles. I do not advocate abolishing gender but abolishing gender labels: I wrote about that here: https://medium.com/inserting-philosophy/how-about-we-just-get-rid-of-gender-labels-altogether-7190b234eeb7